"I’m burying Ellie alone, the same way I raised her."
TW: This post talks about the graphic cause of death of three-year-old Ellie Obi. It is incredibly distressing so please proceed with caution and prioritize your wellbeing if you choose to continue.
WARNING: This post talks about the graphic cause of death of three-year-old Ellie Obi. It is incredibly distressing so please proceed with caution and prioritize your wellbeing if you choose to continue.
"Let the people see what they did to my boy." - Mamie Till, the mother of Emmett Till, on her decision to choose an open casket funeral for her son.
Written by Ellie’s Mom:
Jared brutally beat Ellie. He smashed her skull until it fractured and she had brain swelling. He broke her neck and spine. He did all of this with a heavy boot stomping on her. He wasn’t mentally ill. He was controlling and manipulative and fed his entire family lies to keep me isolated here in a place where I had no family and close friends.
He never allowed for Ellie to visit Texas for even a brief visit so in her 3 years of life, most of my family never got to meet her if they couldn’t fly to California. He lied to ppl and pretended like he had majority custody when he had limited time due to his behavior.
He manipulated his school and innocent church goers to collect money and donations while I paid for everything, I never even asked him for a dime of support. On the contrary, I paid 100% of all bills for my daughter and even offered to pay for his travel and lodging if his objection was about visits. Even after giving him half of everything I earned and paying off all his college debt and giving him my car.
He constantly harassed me even when I was postpartum, locking me out of rooms in the house and recording my reaction to his abuse. His family blocked me when I reached out asking for help with what I thought was his mental breakdown.
He lied in every court document about anything and everything he could. Projecting sick false accusations of murder and abuse which he would ultimately be guilty of himself.
One of the last people he called before taking Ellie’s life was a convicted child sexual predator who he had apparently been friends with for 20+ years. It wasn’t a “custody battle”. It was the slaughter of an innocent child by a monster. I don’t care how many pictures of him taking her to the park he showed. I watched him dump a box filled with her lifeless body in a dumpster. And he was very calm doing it. Jared may have been alone but the blood is on all of their hands.
You may want to believe he was a desperate father wanting time with his child but that is far from the case. He refused to get a job to provide for Ellie even after graduating. He was inconsistent and erratic when exercising his visitation. Often cancelling last minute if there was no one around or no outside event he could take her to for people to see his "doting father" routine. He spent his time trying to earn the sympathy of strangers and family who refused to see the truth.
He calmly changed clothes after dumping her body and made sure he was looking like a professional for his own suicide photo op.
I’m burying Ellie alone, the same way I raised her.
Gut wrenching what people are capable of doing to their own children. I am so, so sorry. Poor Ellie, may she rest in peace. Her soul is free and sticking by you, even if you're burying her physical form, she is with you. Women and children do not deserve such horrid yet common treatment from the men who once showed enough affection to help make those children. It's just so awful... I cannot imagine this trauma and loss.
Thank you so much for everything you are doing. I am going to tune in to every single article you post.